Filling Our Nest is a personal photography project that aims to give a voice to couples who have experienced infertility and miscarriage. The purpose of the project is to both give a group of incredible couples the opportunity to share their experiences and have their strength and bravery recognised, but also to hopefully encourage others in this situation. The project will include couples at different stages of growing their family. This project comes from a very personal place and a frustration that something so painful is not openly discussed as it should be. Let’s change that. If you are impacted by any of the content that you see in this post, then please do share in on your social media. If you are interested in taking part in this project, I plan for it to be an ongoing thing. Please do email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Adam and Pippa are a young married couple, who have a beautiful baby boy called A-Jay, born on Friday 3rd November 2017 at a gorgeous 9lbs 5oz! Adam and Pippa have been married for almost three years and have been together for ten.
>> This is their story <<
We tried for a year before deciding to go to the doctors. To me something just didn’t feel right, we were young at 25 and 31 I felt we would have conceived straight away.
For us there was no question we had to give it a shot. We went on holiday in the August whilst we waited for our referral and to our shock we returned pregnant. Utter miracle and disbelief filled us but I unfortunately miscarried on the 26th September 2016 at 6 weeks.
Fast forward to January 25th 2017 and our first ivf cycle started, my amazing husband administered every single injection I had and after 13 days of stimulation we went in for egg collection. Out of the 16 follicles seen on the ultrasound only 3 had eggs in, another blow, out of those only 2 were mature and after fertilisation only 1 embryo made it. That was the hardest emotional rollercoaster we have ever been on. Those days between egg collection and transfer have been the hardest days our my life, I sobbed when we only had one as the chances looked so slim and my husband said “Pip, that one is all we need, that one is our baby!” Those words will never leave me because he was right. That one is snoring his head off right next to me now as a 14 week old little boy.
It took us 3 long hard years to get our family and my god are we loving every second!
>> What Sort Of Impact Did This Have On You / You As A Couple <<
A friend said to me “everything is temporary” and it’s so true it is! He’s our rainbow!
>> Is There Anything That You Did That You Found Was Helpful To Deal With Your Situation? <<
Talk to anyone you can find, never hold it in, It’s nothing to be ashamed of. And there’s so many people out there that have been where you are and can offer you a light at the end of the tunnel.
Spend nights with each other not talking about it, as much as you need to talk at the same time sometimes you just need to be you as a couple, no pressure no sadness just enjoy each other, keep that love and marriage sparkling! Relaxing meals out and a few drinks.
I loved circuit training! It got all of my frustration out and it was an hour 5 times a week where I just concentrated on the next 1 minute station.
>> Was There Anything That Happened That Was Particularly Unhelpful? <<
We found my sister falling pregnant 1 month after getting married very difficult as I had miscarried a few weeks earlier also. I couldn’t even bring myself to talk to her, her 12 weeks scan was the very same day we started IVF. We never want anyone to struggle with fertility or go through what we have had to but we felt so jealous at that point. It’s so honest but it’s so painful.
However now we have a nephew who is 16 weeks older than Ajay which is amazing, they are going to grow up together as the best friends.
>> Is There Any Advice That You Can Give To Couples Facing The Same Challenges? <<
Laugh everyday with each other!
Do whatever you feel comfortable with!
It’s ok to cry!
It’s ok to feel jealous!
Don’t be ashamed of anything, it’s not you’re fault!
Just remember, Everything is Temporary!
>> A huge, heartfelt thank you to Adam and Pippa for being so open about their story. You guys are inspirational! <<
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