Happy Sunday everyone!
*TRIGGER WARNING – INFERTILITY AND PREGNANCY LOSS*
I’ve been pushing an idea for a personal project round in my mind for some time. It is based on a difficult subject but it draws on my own personal experiences and I think that it could be helpful, at least I hope its helpful. This is unfamiliar territory for me. It’s uncomfortable. It’s raw. But it’s me. I feel that it is generally something that isn’t talked about enough and so here goes…I can’t get pregnant. Even after years of knowing this, it still takes my breath away. It’s nothing that I have done wrong, its not something that I can change…it just is what it is. In the time since that appointment with the doctor, we have gone through all of the emotions. At times its been really bad but it has also allowed us to meet some incredible people, build close relationships with couples in a similar position and learn to love each other in a new way.
Being a newborn photographer for the last 6 years has allowed me to meet and have some honest discussions with parents on the struggles that they had when trying to have their own children. The strength and determination that they have shown both to each other and to the dream of having a baby is quite frankly astonishing. Time and time again, couples shared that they felt that infertility and pregnancy loss is not talked about enough and they were amazed by how many others talked about their own fights and losses to offer some support. My husband and I have tried to be as open with friends and family as we can and as a result, many people have approached us to talk about their own experiences. Time and time again, I have been amazed by how common these struggles are, yet how lonely lots of couples feel. You are not alone in this. The biggest lesson that I have learned through the stage in our life is to always have hope. Hope is what will get you through.
I want to start a personal project that acknowledges the strength of these couples, that celebrates their success after the fight and that tells their story to inspire others to keep pursuing their dream. So I am looking for couples who would like to be involved. I have a few lovely families who have said yes, which is really exciting but I would love some more. Story telling is really important to me and I feel that these are stories that should be told. The project would involve an informal shoot with your family and the completion of a questionnaire. The images and responses will come together to allow me to tell your story in blog form. There is no charge for this as it’s something that is close to my heart and I would love to honour your strength. If you would like to take part, pop your information in the contact form below. Equally if you know of anyone who you think may wish to take part, then please forward this link to them. Or, if you are not ready to share but you are feeling alone in this and you want to talk to someone who is outside of your situation, then please do get in touch. Your information will be treated with the highest respect.
If you have any questions, please pop me a message via the contact form here.